marriage on the rocks

luma72 · #1 01-22-2009

Hey guys. I'm starting this thread for the first time. I hoped that first thread I'd start would've been a fun one but unfortunately it's not.
This past weekend my wife told me that she is no longer in love with me and that she's not sure if she wants to continue being married to me.
We've been married for almost 13 yrs.(Feb. 17) and have an 8 yr, old son named Caleb. Now she's planning to move to an apartment because she needs time apart so that she can be happy.
My boy and I are obviously deeply saddened by this. She has been the spiritual rock for all this time while I was on the wrong path. Praying for me and fasting. FINALLY, God answered her prayers when He transformed my heart 3 1/2 months ago.
I apologize for springing this on you guys, but I really need advise and prayer from men of God.
PLEASE!!! Don't forget about my family when you guys pray. I need all the help I can get in prayer.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. God bless you all.
Luis.

PS: I met my wife when we were in the youth choir.

winslake · #2 01-22-2009

Will she agree to a separation with counseling for you two?

Yes, praying for you and her and your family.
Bob

luma72 · #3 01-22-2009

Seperation yes. But I don't think she's for counseling... atleast not now.
I really appreciate it, Bob.

topshot · #4 01-22-2009

Seems rather ironic that she wants to give up after you've finally "seen the light". Definitely get some Christian counseling for you both to attend.

topshot · #5 01-22-2009

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Originally Posted by luma72

Seperation yes. But I don't think she's for counseling... atleast not now.

At least you two need to sit down with your pastor. It seems she's feeding into the lie that were supposed to be "happy" - that indicates selfishness on her part (which we all have to some extent BTW).

luma72 · #6 01-22-2009

Well, she's bringing up past memories. Bad experiences. I know what the Lord has done in me. The past is the past and He's made me a new person by delivering from depression.
But now I get really bummed out when I think my family possibly living apart.
I pray we won't get to that since we're still under the same roof. ( seperate rooms)

winslake · #7 01-22-2009

Well, I'll pray that too.
Ya know, the past may be the past - but that doesn't mean it's been dealt with - at least how it affected her. There may be some soul searching and repentance and some letting go that needs to take place. It's a healing process. Understandable. There's hurt there. Sure she will need to let it go - but you may need to help her.

A pastor or some other christian counseling is critical. You go if she won't. It's not just talking - there's airing stuff out and, more importantly, prayer that will go on.

Praying, man.
Bob

***Brandon*** · #8 01-22-2009

Praying for you!

luma72 · #9 01-22-2009

Amen. You're absolutely right. Man, thanx so much for your prayer and support!!
I feel so good knowing that people for different parts of the world whom I've never met have us in their thoughts and prayers. We're trully blessed.

luma72 · #10 01-22-2009

Can anyone give me some scriptures to help me get through this?
I've read Jer. 33:3, Joshua 1:9 and Galatians 5:16-26 to name a few. But if any one you guys have some more, I'll gladly receive them in Jesus' name.